Think of your 5 closest friends that you speak with, eat with, or even hang out with at least 10 times out of the month. What kind of lifestyle do they live? Successful or Unsuccessful? Married or Single? Kids or No Kids? Happy or Depressed? Healthy or Unhealthy? Take each one of the 5 and see what category they fit into. Then decide for yourself, what category do you want find yourself in. I've decided that I want to be very successful, have a great family, be as happy as possible, and keep fitness a big part of my life!
Now the road to success is a path less taken by this world. Everyone says they want to be successful but not many put forth the action, take the risk, or flat out work hard enough to become successful. They watch the clock like hawks and the moment it hits 5pm, a trail of dust is left from the speed of their exit. These friends talk about how they hate Mondays, and do not appreciate the fact that they have another week of making some money in this horrible economy. SPOILED! Another important aspect of success is having people around you that will listen to your goals and not feel any negativity nor jealousy towards you. For instance, I would love to live in a nice house and drive a Porsche one day. My friends who fall in the successful category, or friends who share the same goals as myself would probably say something like "Then keep up the hard work, be smart, and give yourself a time frame...Go for it!" My friends who still live at home with their parents, or really have nothing going on would probably say "Don't be greedy" "I just want to live a chillen life...that will make me happy!" Your friends words pierce your heart, and if you are around people who don't share your same interests...they will eventually get to you and you will find yourself saying exactly what they say. So for me, I choose success. Living a chillen life is too easy for my taste. I want a CHALLENGE! I don't want to go through the motions of life....I WANT TO LIVE!
Now for those of my friends who are married, you know darn well its not like a Disney movie! Its more like an episode of "I Love Lucy!" Marriages are not perfect, because we are not perfect yet we expect our spouse to be perfect! There are times we need to vent or talk about problems and those who believe in marriage will tell you what you need to hear to get you through whatever problem you may be facing. One day, the role will be flipped and you will find yourself encouraging either the man or woman that was encouraging you just 5 months ago! Lets say you go to someone who is single or divorced. What advice would they give? Something to the note of "You don't need this stress in your life!" "You should consider moving on." If not at first, eventually they would. I could be wrong on this one...but I'd rather be safe then sorry.
KIDS.....enough said! There is no Gray area when it comes to KIDS. You either love em or hate em!
Recently, I've made my goal of getting my six pack back! Luckily for me I found a gym called Crossfit Rancho Cucamonga. At this gym, I have been pushed to limits that I haven't experienced since I used to compete in Taekwondo. I am surrounded by Coaches and Athletes who make physical fitness a priority in their lives and they have inspired me to watch what I eat and work my butt off during workouts! Because of Crossfit, I have completely removed all white rice, white bread, and anything else that is not whole grain...out of my diet. However, things got so busy at the studio that I haven't had the been opportunity to Crossfit for over 5 months now. I can honestly say I have been side tracked. Aside from my students at PMAC, I don't have any friends who live close enough to me to keep me accountable. Luckily for me, one of my former Coaches has become a student at PMAC and he allows me to go to his house and Crossfit in his garage!!! What would I do without you Mr. Murray!
Finally it comes to this...I learned that honesty is the best policy. I've surrounded my life with so many fakes in my life during my youth. There is no reason to go into detail as it would be inappropriate, but there is no denying that I have EXPERIENCE with people. I know, and you know that there are so called friends who do not have your best interests in mind. Think about the friends you talk about to your husband or wife. The one who made a comment about you, or has ill feelings towards you and doesn't have the guts to say it to your face. But deep down you know whats going on. If you find yourself talking about how so and so did such and such, you should quickly remove them from your circle of friends and see instant results! My trustworthy network of 5 is way stronger then anyones fake network of 30. Food for thought :)
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